Regret can be either a demise or an opportunity to learn great lessons. This morning I posted my first day co-hosting #LoveBlog on www.dofivethingsaday.com with the topic being ‘Regret’. When I participate in this challenge every year it always gives me more insight into who I am. The prompts lead me into a deeper self-discovery each year. With recently launching this blog, my mind went into thoughts of how regret has formed in the processes of building my blogs and my businesses.
Yesterday I shared my post on How to Build a Schedule for a Healthy Hustle and I touched on how I had experienced true burn out at the end of last year. This is where regret taught me many lessons. It wasn’t necessarily a direct path from regret that led to my burn out. But I did catch myself overworking to try compensate for regret that had stacked up inside of me.
The time I took recovering from my burn out gave me a chance to see things from a different perspective. It gave me a chance to separate my regret, guilt, and what I thought as short-comings from my actions. In essence, I was separating my emotions from my actions so I could define them clearly. I needed to identify my motivators and my drivers.
I want more out of life than I have now.
I regretted not completing college. I regretted not pushing myself to go after my dreams earlier in life. Because of that I am left with lots of passions unfulfilled. That leaves a certain amount of inner chaos inside of me. I was harboring a sense of unsatisfaction. In response to those feelings I set out to accomplish a crazy amount of goals in an unrealistic time span.
You can’t change the past.
No matter how much work I do now, I cannot change the past. I can however move forward. But I couldn’t truly do that until I learned how to practice gratitude. I have accomplished many things in my life. I have many great stories to tell. But I was so blinded by the regret I was holding on to that I was missing my opportunities of celebration.
To be your best, you have to take the best care of yourself.
Since I’ve been practicing gratitude, I’ve been able to see regret as a tool and less as a nemesis. I use it as a motivator, and as a teacher.
What Lessons I Learned about Self-care from Regret:
- Practice gratitude – Be grateful for all that you have accomplished so far and all the wonderful things you have in your life. Write down what your grateful daily. Constantly remind yourself of your blessings.
- Take time to rest – You have to give yourself the opportunity to recharge. You will be so much more productive and have sharper thoughts when you do.
- Celebrate – Reward yourself for your accomplishments. Growing your sense of pride in your work will strengthen your confidence. This is a motivator to keep moving forward.
- Take your time – Don’t rush your projects. Let them grow. Give yourself the space to thoroughly develop them and enjoy the process along the way.
- Don’t isolate – Regret can cause us to want to withdraw. Don’t. If you are feeling overwhelmed with regret, reach out to a loved one. Talk it out.